There was also a great outdoor spa that we sat in and looked at the stars from on Friday night. NOICE.
Despite my cynicism the marriage enrichment weekend was actually really good. They showed some video talks by an American guy named Paul David Tripp. Despite his rather animated moustache, the talks were really good. REALLY good.
Allow me to wax Christian for a moment...
His basic premise is that the reason we have trouble loving each other is because we don't love God enough. When we are worshipping God (as opposed to worshipping ourselves or our things or whatever it might be) it is much easier to love others. When we really see what God has done for us and have a grateful heart it is much easier to love others selflessly, like Christ does. His 3 practical tips at the end were about:
- worshipping God as creator (and in your marriage not denigrating your partner who is a person created by God)
- worshipping God as sovereign (and therefore not denigrating your partner's story - it is God who has authored their story)
- worshipping God as saviour (and therefore growing in grace - both of you - using the little moments as moments of ministry rather than of anger)
For me the one thing that really stood out is that the whole point of marriage - of any experience in life - is for us (Christians) to be transformed into the likeness of Christ. God wants me in this exact situation in my life - it is all part of His plan to make me more like Christ. Pretty humbling really.
*** End of churchy bit***
The kids had a great time while we were gone. They made chocolate brownies with Kellie and then had pizza for dinner on Friday. Kellie's flatmate Lou came over to visit and showed the girls her surfboards (Emma is planning on being a surfer when she grows up - despite having NEVER been to the beach in her life) so that was a real hit.
My sister was happy because between Kellie and my mum she didn't have to change any dirty nappies or wipe anyone's bottom. She was VERY happy about that as she doesn't cope at all with poo.
My mum was a legend and folded all my washing (nearly a months worth).
Here is Ashlea sitting amongst the washing - you can see the pile almost comes up to her shoulders - you can also see some of her bruises from her blood test too. She is playing with her iphone (don't freak out - its actually Carolin's phone - I did not buy my child an iphone!). We are breeding another generation of technological geeks in our house.