Anyone else think from time to time that being married is a P I T A ???
I was undecided about whether to publish this post as it is a bit of a taboo topic, but I feel that I have been holding back while blogging, and I don't see the point of that. Of late the topics I have blogged about have been fairly lightweight. Nothing meaty. Nothing particularly insightful. However, that isn't because there has been nothing going on. There has been plenty going on. It is just something that I am unsure of whether I should blog about.
So, here goes.
Murray and I are having .... wait for it ... couples counselling.
I hate it.
Its nearly as bad as root canal, and is adding to my stress levels like you wouldn't believe.
We have got to the point however, where it is very hard to parent / cohabit / whatever, as we are so NOT on the same page. About anything. Something needs to change. Things need to improve.
So...counselling it is.
Is anyone else game to open up on this subject???
Rumour has it, that the divorce rate for families of a child with a disability is DOUBLE that of the general population. I don't know if that is true or if it is a 'disability urban myth'. If the general population's divorce rate is already 40%, that puts us parents of special needs kids in strife.
Do you think having a child with a disability has affected your marriage? If so, how?
I think for us it has just worsened things that were weaknesses before, but with less stress we might have been able to let them slide. I remember reading somewhere - can't remember whose blog - about how over time it is very easy for a couple to fall into the trap of one person doing all of the work - and gradually becoming increasingly resentful. That so describes me. But for me it is not just about the physical support, it is the lack of emotional support. I don't feel that Murray is able to support me. He is too in need of support himself - support that I can't give as I have nothing left to give by the time I have done everything for the children.
I don't know what the answer is.
Hopefully this counsellor will have some ideas. She seems like she knows what she is doing. Doesn't mean I have to like it though.
Because this is one of those topics that no one talks about it makes me wonder.... Is it just us??? Or are other people in the same boat? And if you're NOT in this boat...what is your secret?