School holidays are drawing to a close here - Emma is back to school on Monday, and Ashlea and Audrey are back to preschool on Tuesday.
As much as I love holidays - and not having to make lunches and iron uniforms - I am looking forward to Ashlea being back at preschool. Both her and Audrey love preschool, but it is just SO GOOD for Ashlea. She loves it. She thrives there.
The only difficulty is that nearly all their class mates from last year have gone on to big school this year, meaning we have to start again with new children. New children means new parents. New children and parents mean new questions. As much as my skin has gotten thicker over the years, it still kind of stabs at the heart to know that my child is the one that stands out.
I am wondering if I should write a little letter to the other families to introduce her? I don't think I did last year - although many of last year's parents already knew us because Audrey was at preschool the year before.
What do you think?
Part of me really can't be bothered. I'm not going to have relationships with any of the mums seeing as I am working and don't have time to get to know them. Also our kids will go to different schools so we really won't have any contact after this year.
Is it any of their business knowing more about Ashlea?
Would it help break down barriers do you think?
If I did write a note, could I mention that Ashlea is waiting for a kidney transplant and therefore is vulnerable to illness and that they should keep their snotty-nosed kids at home if they're sick? Or would that perhaps be going too far??
For the most part I find people are pretty good when it comes to accepting Ashlea. They are often better than I expect them to be. Last week we started in a new swimming class - with all new people - something I have done a few times now and always find daunting at first. One of the activities the kids do is run across a little platform and dive into the water. When it was Ashlea's turn and the instructor helped her 'run' across - and I use that term very loosely - our new classmates gave a little cheer for her. I felt a little choked up. I don't know where the line between patronising and genuine well wishing is, but it didn't feel patronising at the time. It felt like they were happy seeing her having such a good time at swimming. Maybe that's the lesson right there? Maybe Ashlea needs no introduction and will just show them herself that in spite of the equipment she is just a kid who loves to go to preschool.